“Beware of the barrenness of a busy life.” -Socrates
As I walked through the door Tuesday evening into my second story apartment building, I set down the first of four bags in my hands. After arriving home for the first time in 36 hours, my body was calling out to me – sit down! The problem – it felt like a mere whisper to the dishes in the sink and the bags on the floor below.
It was 9:00 at night and I didn’t have to be out of the house until 10:00 am the next day. There was no urgent need to clean and unpack, yet my mind told me there was. I was reminded of my sweet grandmother who ran around the house cooking and cleaning until she could no longer walk. I don’t think I ever saw her sit down.
Unnecessary busyness is a growing epidemic in our modern fast paced society. To be clear, I am not talking about the type of busyness associated with a big deadline rather doing things just to get it done.
With technology at our fingertips, we’ve been given the opportunity to consistently be “DOING” something. We’ve lost the ability to ponder situations, stare out the window, or walk down the street without ear buds blasting our new favorite hit.
Frankly, it’s gotten to the point where we are so unnecessarily busy we need to do lists for everything. We’ve got to plan out our weeks months in advance and our summers in the winter to ensure we get in all the activities we want to be a part of. This leads to us dropping into fall with the sound a sack of potatoes would make as it hits the floor.
Why are we so busy?
Busyness gives us the illusion of productivity and purpose. We have glorified this “busy life” with the idea that if we are busy, we are important. On the other end, if we have downtime we are lazy, unproductive, and a lesser person to our society.
Busyness is often just a distraction. It’s pointing us towards task-driven living rather than purpose-driven living. If we constantly have tasks in front of our face, a to do list that’s never ending, and an email inbox with 300 unread messages that need to be responded to, it becomes very difficult to consciously take downtime.
We feel guilty. We feel like we are letting others down.
But are we? Are we doing this to be busy or because we actually need to do it?
You make a priority and do what you want to do. Right now, do you want to check items off your to do list? If so, why?
Why is our society so attached to doing? How do we shift back into a place of being?
Notice where and when you are doing just to do. What REALLY needs to get done today? How can you do it to the fullest extent?
Then, ask yourself am I thinking about unnecessary busyness in other areas of my life? For example, while I am out with friends or in conversation with my loved ones, am I present or thinking about what needs to be done?
Today, focus on what’s in front of you. Ask yourself, what is really important in my life? Be there.
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Yoga Teacher & Life Coach
To share your story is to give strength to humanity.
As I looked around the living room that warm summer weeknight, I saw expressions of fear, pain, and anxiety hoisted on top of shoulders and protruding from the lips of my peers. The topic of conversation: highs & lows of the past week.
When the topic breached, all I could think about was the struggles I had personally faced over the past 7 days. Sure there were moments of great joy and success but there were also times of extreme discomfort. Specifically, as my career shifts in a focused direction I have felt alone in my struggles and pursuits. Isolation is the worst possible counsel.
That evening as we sat down to share our individual highs and lows, I realized I was not alone.
In fact, many people were either experiencing something similar this very week or had within the past few months.
As I look back on my past experiences, I was reminded of the other times I have experienced life changes that shook my world. People came to me with comfort by sharing their story.
By opening up and sharing how you are doing you will find comfort in community but even more connection through vulnerability. In sharing your story, you inspire others to confide in you. We learn from one another. Therefore, our mistakes are not only opportunities for us to learn but also those around us!
Fear not your story, for surely it will inspire another.
Nobody has ever become poor by giving.
Share your stories. Confine in your community and grow in relationship with one another. We all are struggling or will struggle. By sharing your struggles we open ourselves up to growth from one another and with one another.
What are you struggling with? How can you share your story today? What do you need from your community to feel supported?
Yoga Teacher & Life Coach